Autumn- How to think like a Gardner

As the weather changes, evenings become darker, days cooler we begin to hear the laments: “I can’t cope with this weather, where has the sun gone” “I dread this time of year, it’s so depressing” These will be familiar words to all of us, we may even suffer the same fear and discomfort as summer beings to fade we mourn the feeling of the hot sun on our skin and the bright balmy evenings. How do gardeners cope with the Autumn? Those among us who spend their time outdoors, carefully … [Read more...]

An Explosion of Bloom and Beauty

Whether we are walking or driving around at this time of year we  can’t help but notice the abundance of poppies. They are clad in a variety of colours from yellow, pinks, mauves to the deep red. Poppies have for many years in our culture have come to come to symbolise death. We cant think of our fallen soldiers without the image of a poppy springing to mind. Last year saw the incredible instillation of handmade pottery poppies surrounding the Tower of London. The sight was breath taking and … [Read more...]

Listen

"I would love to have somebody to listen to me” or “ I think I could do what you do and listen to people all day." These two phrases are the ones that most therapists hear most often when they tell people what they do. The belief that your therapist, or that the process of counselling and therapy just involves you talking and the professional opposite you just listens are at best missing the point of what therapy is and at worst deterring people seeking help. At the heart of the process is … [Read more...]

Dreams

Clients through the course of their therapy often discuss or explore the dreams they have whilst sleeping. These often provide valuable insights into worries and concerns that they have during the day and in some instances when explored can illuminate relationships and guide decisions. The dreams we have when we are awake are however of great importance. They are our hopes and dreams for a better future a different way of life and can be the start of making those very important life … [Read more...]

The Importance of Sleep

Its no accident that sleep deprivation has been used as a torture. Not having enough sleep affects us all differently but common symptoms of not having enough sleep are irritability, depression, confusion and feelings of being generally overwhelmed. Having worked with clients for over 12 years I have come across individuals who are having difficulty sleeping. Our modern lifestyle can contribute to some of our sleep problems. Doctors, nurses, police officers and others who work night shifts … [Read more...]

Our Shadow Self

The sun is out, and the long cold winter we all endured is gradually slipping into memory. The sun and warmth change our outlook and how we feel. The sun casts our silhouette on the ground, and we all become used to walking in time with our shadow self. But, what of our shadow side that we are only dimly aware of. That side of ourselves that remains obscure, defended and unknown even to ourselves. We may have a nagging feeling that all is not well, we may feel unsettled and not know why we … [Read more...]

New Year Resolutions – What’s Happened to Our Resolve?

Its February so why bring up New Year Resolutions. They are done, dusted, forgotten about, put to one side only to be revisited again next year! It’s too easy to be cynical about resolutions, some may think that they are pointless or they are taken on with such fervour the individual sets themselves up to fail. By now many of us will be feeling the frustration of not sticking to what we set out to achieve a month ago, and despondency may have set in, and we don't want to be reminded of our … [Read more...]

Why Are We Afraid To Jump?

How often do we stand on the edge of something and are too afraid to jump? That does not make us weak; it makes us human. We all have fears, past experiences, insecurities, thoughts that hold us back. This latest news is owed to a conversation with a clever man called Will. Sometimes it does not seem to matter how much we want to change, move forward, step into the future or take a leap of faith, the silver binding thread of procrastination can hold us securely in our past. “Come to the … [Read more...]

Poustinia – Finding Respite for the Mind

The word poustinia has its origin in the Russian word for€˜ desert€™, it is also the name given to a small sparsely furnished cabin or room where one goes to be alone, away from the hustle and bustle of life. Essentially poustinia describes a quiet peaceful place that people wish to enter to find the truth of themselves. The idea of poustinia interests me, it suggests that once we find that quiet place we will have solitude and no matter what goes on externally we can rest in the stillness … [Read more...]

What is Health?

By now most of us are aware that regular exercise, eating five a day, and reducing our alcohol intake are sure ways to achieve good physical health. However, many of us are unaware of what good mental and emotional health feels like. One thing is for sure, we will find it difficult to embark upon a healthy regime and restore our physical well-being, if we can't find the mental capacity and motivation to undertake the necessary steps to achieve our goals. What is good health? €“ At … [Read more...]